Here is a suggestion (in the form of a question) to help determine whether the person you are considering is right for you: Do the things you think you need to do to pursue them (i.e. get this person to notice you, catch their interest, keep their interest, get them to love you, or keep them loving you) – do these things make you a better person or a worse person or is it neutral?

Choose the one who makes you want to be better.